What is Oppositional Defiant Disorder – Mental Health Help with Kati Morton | Kati Morton

What is Oppositional Defiant Disorder – Mental Health Help with Kati Morton | Kati Morton


Hey, everybody.
Today, I’m gonna with you about Oppositional Defiant Disorder,
what is it, and how does it relate to other
disorders we may struggle with. So like I said, today, I’m gonna
with you about Oppositional Defiant Disorder, and because
I’m talking about a disorder, like always, I got my DSM handy. And I’m going to read you the
description of what they say— I’m gonna call it ODD from now
on, but we’ll know that means Oppositional Defiant Disorder
but ODD what it really is. And they say it’s a pattern
of angry/irritable mood or argumentative/defiant behavior or vindictiveness lasting at least
six months as evidenced by at least four symptoms from any
of the following categories. So the way that I remembered when I
was studying for my license and exam, you all remember when I was doing that,
and the way that I remember the difference because there are two of these types
of—it’s a young person’s disorder— usually ODD and Conduct Disorder,
or CD, happen to people when they’re in, you know,
late-adolescence–early-teen years. That’s usually when these come about. And the difference—what I always
remember between Oppositional Defiant Disorder,
ODD, and Conduct Disorder, CD— was that ODD, the “O”
stands for obnoxious: These people are very irritable.
They get very angry and frustrated. And they lash out. But the people with Conduct Disorder
commit crimes. The “C” in Conduct was
for committing crime. So that is how I always
differentiated these. Conduct Disorder is what—if you remember
my Antisocial Personality Disorder video, I bring it up because that is
a precursor to that. So that’s how these differentiate,
just so that you know. Now, ODD. The symptoms that people may experience are things like
often losing their temper, really touchy, they get annoyed
easily. They’re angry and resentful
a lot of the time. They can argue with authority figures. For children, they tend to do with
their teachers, and adults tend do more with
their loved or their boss, even. They often deliberately annoy
other people. And they often blame others for
his or her mistakes or misbehavior. And they can also, a part of this,
is like being vindictive. And that says they’ve been spiteful
or vindictive at least twice in the past six months. And that’s just the diagnostic criteria, and we know that that doesn’t
show us the whole picture. So I made some notes about
what it is, what causes it, why do we have this, how does
it relate to other disorders we may have. And you can see already, as I talk
about the different symptoms that may show, and you may feel,
how these can relate. I know a lot of you who struggle
with Bipolar Disorder. We experience a mixed state,
a mixed state being, I may be kind of hypomanic, but I also feel
very depressed. See, we have that inner tension,
irritability, uncomfortable feeling, and we may exhibit these types
of symptoms. I may have ADD or ADHD, and in school, it’s really difficult for me
to pay attention. I get bored easily.
I don’t want to listen to the teacher. And I get really annoyed. And I’m irritable about it. You can see how these may
look the same, how they may overlap. And so it’s important if you worry
that you struggle with this or someone’s told you that you’ve
been diagnosed with this, that you ask questions about these
other issues you may have because we want to make sure you
are getting diagnosed properly, okay? So what causes it? Like everything [sighs] in psychology,
we don’t actually know, because we can’t look at the brain
while it’s working and be like, Why is this happening?
When did this happen? What caused it? But we do know—I have all my notes.
It’s what I’m looking at— that they believe that there’s most
likely a genetic component because they find people who have somebody
in their family who also struggles with some kind of Conduct Disorder
or ODD that they are two times
more likely to struggle. And it’s also environmental factors. In my experience, with the—
I used to see children that were forced to see me because they had
just gotten out of juvenile detention and had been in trouble with the law that a lot of those kids had
environmental factors that played a role. And a lot of that talk about environment
is prone to parenting, lack of supervision, or
inconsistency in parenting. And a lot of the people that I saw
had an intensely hard discipline, like they would get beat with a
belt or a wooden spoon or even punched or slapped for doing
something wrong. And so extremely harsh discipline
or abuse or neglect, they find, can lead to ODD. And as far as genetics, we don’t
really know. They talk about the different nerves
and the way that the brain functions and that there’s a disconnect,
and so people really struggle. So, what do we do? We know we have it.
We have a lot of the symptoms, or we’ve been told we have it. And it may be something that we just got diagnosed with on top of something else that we already have. I looked up different treatments,
and obviously, medication is something that they always put in
there as an option. But the ones that I want to highlight
are more things that we can do as families, because we know that environmental factors play such a
big role, that we can put in motion and we
start doing that can actually help us in the long run. And a lot of it has to do with parents, parent-child interaction, parent
training. They talk about how you can do
what they call parent-child interaction therapy, PCIT. You can look it up. I hadn’t heard
about this, because I have never worked with a family and a
child with ODD. But it really helps them interact
with their children in a way, communicate in a way,
set boundaries in a way that allows the person with ODD to become
less irritable, to feel safer, to be able to communicate their
frustrations in a healthier way, and if they don’t, then there’s
time outs and different rules and things that they follow that don’t involve
any kind of abuse or extreme discipline. You can see how we’re trying to change
the way family functions. And another is obviously
individual and family therapy, because it can give you a place if
you’re the person who’s really feeling frustrated all the time and just
want to lash out, it can give you a place to express the anger,
to express your frustration with a situation, to talk about how
annoying this whole thing is and what’s going on at school or at
work or whatever. It gives you a place to vent, and we
know that that’s part of the reason why therapy works so well,
am I right? And the last thing that they talk about—
there are a lot of options, by the way, but these are just the ones that show
the most research and the most support— cognitive problem-solving training. Now, this helps you child just like CBT. If you wonder about CBT, you can click
here, and go to see my CBT video. But it gives the child who’s struggling
with Oppositional Defiant Disorder the ability to change their thought patterns. So, if they don’t get their way,
something frustrates them, it doesn’t work out, it’s okay. They have these things that can write
down, automatic thoughts, and we can give you some tools,
like I do in my workbooks, right? And give you some tools to work
on that, to help manage that thought, and to change the action that comes
out of that thought. You know, cognitive behavioral, it’s
like you have a thought-that-leads to-an-action kind of thing,
a belief and a thought and an action all cycles together, and we end up
doing up these things, and so this helps down that process
so that we can work to not react but think about it, realize what we’re
doing, and try to respond in a better way. Now, obviously, all this takes work. All of the things that they talk about,
the lifestyle and home remedies, things that we can do, like
modeling behavior, picking your battles as a parent, all that parent-child
interaction, it takes a lot of work. But it’s worth it, because struggling
with ODD as a child can be very hard. It means that every day is a fight. It’s a battle not only with ourselves
but with other people in our lives. And from the people that I’ve worked
with who struggle with it, they don’t really like feeling this way, but it’s
almost like they don’t know how else to react or respond. World doesn’t feel like a very safe place,
so they react out of anger a lot. They may have never felt safe, so they
lash out quickly to protect themselves or kind of like pufferfish. And so doing all the work is very worth
it, because it not only makes your child feel better, or the person with ODD
to feel better, feel calmer, but it helps your whole household to be calmer. And some more of the home remedies they
offer is recognize and praise, like giving your child praise for the
things they’ve done well and recognizing when they’re working really hard. And also setting up limits, setting up
a routine. You can find a lot of these different
ideas at the Mayo Clinic’s website. They talk a lot about ODD and
how to help it as a family member, how to work with your partner in
assigning certain chores and responsibilities and praise them when they
do them and just better structuring your household so that it’s not such
an irritable, agitating place for the person with ODD. And there are also obviously some
medications that they recommend, but we all know—I know that many of you don’t
want to take those. A lot of them are like SSRIs
and antidepressants, things that work for people with anxiety or lashing out.
They even recommend some antipsychotic medication to help kind of calm you down. So try the treatment remedies at home. Try some of the parent training and
setting boundaries, because that can really help. And we all know in
general that if we have routines, we have different kinds of boundaries
that we know are there, like, Well, I can’t do because my
mom said it’s not appropriate, that’s life, and it helps us all feel
calmer, stay calmer, be able to better manage what we’re feeling. And I would also encourage any of you,
if you’re struggling with ODD, check out my DBT workbook. I know that’s a lot
of acronyms. I’m sorry. But DBT is a great—I have my self-harm
workbook. It has a lot of DBT stuff, and there’s a DBT workbook that I
recommend in my Amazon widget at the bottom of KatiMorton.com It is great for managing that
explosive-anger feeling, that buildup of tension that we get and then we
feel like we explode. And that will really help you better
manage those symptoms and feel like you’re more in control of your emotions
versus the other way around, and wouldn’t that be nice? I love you all. Thank you so much for
checking this video out. If you like these kinds of topics and
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because like I’m always saying, it lets YouTube know how important
mental health is. So let’s keep working together,
let’s keep sharing videos, and sharing our experiences as we work towards a
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100 comments

  1. Someone with ODD can really affect the whole family. I find it frustrating how the whole family is expected to dance around the one with ODD. The ones who function normally have to walk on eggshells to try to function with this person. I personally find it frustrating because it's as though the people without the misbehavior are expected to learn more and try harder than the one with the disorder. This problem can make a family go through living hell
    We have been for years

  2. Had a poor young boy in a camp that had this. He struggled so much. We would go out to ponds to look for fish and crayfish and frogs and such and he would get mad that he "didn't catch anything," even when he did. We would remind him of what he did catch and he would come up with another reason to get frustrated and he would just stand there refusing to move and get angry and accuse us of making sure he didn't catch anything or calling us liars. We would just ensure him that we would never lie to him and that he did a great job that day. Eventually, he would snap out of it, but we would end up coming back to our museum late because of it. A bit after the episode was over, or even right after he said something he knew was rude or inappropriate, he would apologize and say, "I'm sorry. I'm trying to be good." It was so heartbreaking as he clearly had lower self esteem because of it and you could just feel his struggle. His family was getting him help though, I hope he ends up feeling better as his toolbox for dealing with emotions, impulsivity and irritability grows.

  3. I haven't been diagnosed with this but I feel a lot of the symptoms as they are being described. In fact all of them. I don't think I was ever beat but I feel like I was verbally abused my step-parent and I just became very angry. It just seemed like they wanted to tell me how to think. How my thought process should be handled. And that I had to do a lot to impress them. And I was just so angry because I wanted to turn that against them but never worked. And that affected my relationships and still does to this day even though I've moved out for several years now.

    But I think that learning to do things on my own and recognizing myself for what I've done and learning that every single thing is a major accomplishment. That loving myself is the one thing I need to do is really helping me along and I think other people see that when I make my videos.

    My step-parent was rude but I looked at the positive people in my life who I could look up to and that I don't need to think about my step-parent now because they are gone now and I am the one in control. I am the one telling my life where to go. And I am very proud of myself for having the power. And I've gotten to the point where I can look back on my life and look at my life story with self-love and rewrite it. And tell myself the lessons I learned while I was in that state of mind. And how everyone has something to contribute and you just have to learn to love it.

  4. Don't be bullied by this nonsensical psychological operation of medical mind control. This is the title they give to people whose opinions are different from the group. This label is used to SILENCE people with a different opinion. I was told I had this when I tried to show my bible group a scripture that explained my point of view. I was silenced with a statement "If we are going to argue then I'm not coming to the meetings anymore." This was the response I got for trying to express my views WITHOUT ME SAYING A WORD. Don't be fooled by this psychobabble. It will be used against you even if you are civil and no temper whatsoever. This so called "diagnosis" is another means TO SELL YOU A DRUG. These teaching such nonsense are being brainwashed by the medical and pharmaceutical industries and it brings with it a label that will stay with you for the rest of your life, limiting your job opportunities and rights. Just because you disagree with the group's opinion gives NO ONE a right to label you. Remember: it's all subjective with NO SCIENTIFIC PROOF OF ANY KIND. Psychiatry is a fraud because the only proof they have is their opinion about your behavior. Behavior IS NOT A DISEASE!! What angers normal people is BEING SCAMMED!!!

  5. I'm sure I had ODD as a child. To me, it seems like a natural consequence of children being stuck/forced into positions where their interests aren't engaged enough for them to reach their potential. Therefore they can't focus on something that would direct their energy in a positive direction. And STUCK is what children are. Most aren't allowed to make choices for themselves, and that can become infuriating. Teachers can be mean, and generally awful and a child may wonder what gives the person who mistreats them the right to tell them what to do. The public school system is a breeding ground for trauma and mental illnesses that people will be trying to come to terms with for the rest of their lives.

    And like you said abusive/ over strict controlling parents have a big part to play.

    Anyway, I still hate and distrust authority. I think there is something very messed up with one person being permitted to have control over another. Protecting a vulnerable person from harm is the only authority that seems morally appropriate to me.

  6. I have this and people call me Odd girl
    Or they call me fell
    Or edgy lol
    Or edge
    Or edge lord
    Or they annoy me to try to make me freak out

  7. Katy,bless you always dear,..could you please talk about the rekationship between ODD and the reaction kof the Escape Goat in Narcissistic families in trying to assert himself againstcthe Narc..
    Thank you!

  8. My partner is diagnosed with this, but what I'm confused about is every time I try to talk him into doing something, he claims that I'm triggering his odd. Is this accurate? Can he really be triggered by just trying to talk him into something?

  9. my teacher said she give me my mms after the lesson and she chuck em in the bin so I fucked her up am I just a little shit

  10. Theres a disorder for everything, we all have different emotions, brought up in different surroundings and genetics..

  11. i just wanted to know what one of my "disorders" was i also have add, adhd, and anxiety
    I also argue with whoever i think is wrong mostly my parents and teachers.
    but I'm never really sad I'm mostly happy unless someone is being what I consider to be stupid
    also I'm always bored in school and don't like listening to teachers, except for me test a cuz he is the shit.
    but my mom works with this stuff and it helps me a lot and I live on a fam so I have animals to help me out 🙂

  12. You stated in the video that ODD is common in adolescence , but you actually described my 48 year old big sister to the tee LOL. My sister is horrible with this , she has this sense of entitlement and simply put , she doesn't like being told what to do , she thinks the whole solar system owes her something and she acts like rules are an unfair imposition , even when breaking the rules means getting fired and/or getting arrested. She hasn't been able to hold a job for more than a month her whole life , she's done jail time for driving with a suspended license after a previous DUI arrest , but in her little pea brain who cares what the judge says right ? LOL. It's as if she would rather fuck herself over than submit to rules. As far as the revenge part goes , when she got divorced the state ruled her unfit and her ex husband was awarded sole custody of the children. He told me that child protective services was visiting him every other week because she kept calling them making claims of neglect and abuse , that was her way of getting revenge. Although nothing became of it , it's still annoying . Judging from my sister , In my opinion ( for what its worth ) ODD is a serious physiological disorder that needs to be medically treated , it can destroy your life.

  13. I have Depression and ODD and a lot of the time, the smallest things can set me off. Having a depressive and a childhood disorder is a cusp for "ASPD" as told by my therapist. When I wake up in the morning I either feel like yelling at the next person I see or I feel like I just can't get up out of bed. Living with both disorders has caused my life absolute hell. When I was little, I started to harm myself because I though I deserved it, but as I grew up I only started to harm myself so I could feel something. I had problems with abusing animals when I was little (I still do but I've learned to how to control it better) because I had no logical output for my anger except to make someone else feel what I was feeling. Thus saying, if I was given the opportunity to murder someone and not be charged for anything, I would absolutely take it.

  14. Seems like bullshit to me. I bet a lot of intelligent people get beat down with this crap when they see through hypocrites demands and refuse to play along with the game. They won't conform to the lies so they must be wrong for seeking their truth. Sick society makes the well the enemy.

  15. Kati Morton: Hi Kati. Excellent video btw, thank you. We have a 16-year-old son who I guess has never really been diagnosed with ODD, but certainly demonstrates all the classic signs (which I'd rather not get into for now at least). When I say 'never really been diagnosed', our family Doctor has always said 'no' whenever we've raised the issue, but on two separate occasions, two different ER Doctors suggested he may have it without us even raising the subjects?

    Anyhoo, just two quick questions (for now!) because as a family, we want to know more about the illness itself. So when you begin by saying the way "they" describe it in your DSM, does it say who "they" are? i.e. does your book indicate whose description of ODD it's quoting? I only ask because the (many) definitions we have heard or read about, seem to mention all kinds of things to look out for, and our son demonstrates some, but not all. So we just wonder if there is a kind of accepted or 'definitive' diagnosis?

    And second, and I apologize in advance if this sounds like a dumb question, is it possible that ODD could be passed on from one generation to another in the same family? Or maybe even if it could skip a generation but then show itself from a grandpa to a grandson etc? I appreciate this particular video isn't new and again I apologize if I'm asking questions which you may have already gone through in a more recent video. Thanks again for any information you can give us.

  16. My sister has ADHD and it comes with ODD. She’s a nightmare when she’s doesn’t have her meds. And as kids, she drove me up the wall. We’re both adults but she still has it. And I get totally ticked about it. And so I don’t do things with her at all. Plus we’re very different personality wise. And ODD is NOT exclusive to children and teens.

  17. Mental illness occurs when children become a teenager many parents are emotionally absent in their children's lives.

  18. Anger and bad cognition can cause it, like in the case of brain injuries, etc.. I think there are also cross diagnosis in things like chronic pain. Tough kids can be defiant. Sometimes you have to be tough to survive, but it seems to be more than just being dominant. You want to have a kids on a hiarchy, just like you would for yourself. It is something you want to be cool about, so you people don't act out of resentment, etc.

  19. I think a lot of it is kids know that there are too many controls that do not do the most good. For example, a liderate high school student would not be intereested in reading a book for an assignment when he or she realizes that teaching grammar and punctuation is where it's at.

  20. My son was diagnosed in early childhood with ODD. I didn’t put much thought into it and didn’t tell the schools. I told myself, “Being defiant isn’t mental ILLNESS.” But now he’s a teenager and it’s just now sinking in that ever since preschool, it has been the exact same story. He bullies and harasses students, teachers, loved ones and any authority figure. If you flex authority over him, he WILL fight back even if it means being cruel and vindictive. He has destroyed property, even his grandparents property (close to $1500.00 in loss in a 1 month time frame) because he didn’t like their rules. He was kicked out of preschool and then each school year, he was suspended more than he was in class. The suspensions were for the exact same reasons from Kindergarten to the present: Bullying. He tells teachers off and walks in and out of class at his own leisure. He has always said (and still says) that he gets so annoyed by other kids and adults that he will take it into his own hands and make their life hell. My other kids have felt like I let him get away with it but that’s not it at all. My heart is constantly breaking. I’m his only advocate. I’m equally fed up and at the same time, I’m his #1 support and love him unconditionally. If he didn’t have me, no one else would be advocating for him. He cleaned the kitchen, made dinner and set three kitchen table the other day. He even lit candles. He wants us to always have dinner as a family. But as soon as we sit down, he starts snapping at all of us. He starts threatening to hit his sister if she continues to annoy him, he tells step dad to shut up and tells him he’s not a member of this family, he bosses me around. Then everyone else is just as upset as he is and dinner is ruined. Another example is that we go out to buy groceries or on outings and he swears he’s not going to be mean to anyone but as soon as we’re on our way to our destination, he starts torturing his siblings and arguing with all of us. We all end up feeling miserable. And then everyone is upset with me because I’ll remind them that it’s part of his struggle. To the kids, husband and outsiders, it looks like I’m making excuses, maybe even enabling him.

    Now that he’s a teen, the juvenile department is involved. 6 months ago I got a call from the probation department informing me that the DA was pressing charges against him. Just when I thought that was over, he’s now being charged with criminal mischief. When I read up on Conduct Disorder and ODD, I feel like someone out there knows my son the way I do.

    Every psych eval he’s had over the years (4 total) and IEP describes a boy with rigid standards for others that he feels he needs to control and the inability to empathize with others. I used to toss these reports because empathy is something that develops with time and maturity. Also, I didn’t want to believe it. I had a good talk with him recently. He opened up to me and described to me how he sees himself as in control of his own life and everyone else like characters in a game and he cant grasp the idea that everyone else has their own home life, wants and needs.

    I still have a lot of hope. I think that with help, he can be taught to channel these traits into good. He could be great at individual sports and succeed in careers where he works mostly alone. Sadly, I feel like I’m the only one that has hope.

  21. I have o.d.d but it comes out of abuse and it’s my reaction to it, but I still feel like I’m a bad person and it makes me feel gross about myself I also have ptsd and anxiety and I’m a recovering bulimic and I just feel so confined internally

  22. My 3-year-old son was recently diagnosed with ODD and after watching your episode with Shane Dawson I decided to see if you had anything to say about ODD and I'm glad you did. Thank you because I had no idea what this even meant.

  23. Can a child/teen with ODD out-grow this? My 17yr old has this but wasn't actually diagnosed with it until 12yrs or 13yrs old. He also has severe ADHD and was diagnosed with that at 3yrs. Old. I'm just curious because I have fears and concerns for him when he's an adult and trying to thrive on his own out in the community and world.

  24. Having made my start decades ago working with children, it makes me sad knowing ODD is heavily encouraged as a dx in kids. Differential dx is important. I am still helping parents advocate for accurate dx.

  25. I love your videos I’m so glad I found your Channel! I’ve had depression and anxiety my whole life but I find other mental disorders interesting to learn about and how they come about, mainly because my moms a therapist.I love that your videos are educational and more factual,non-biased. I appreciate your content

  26. My 12 year old daughter has been diagnosed with this. We are so bad about not keeping strong boundaries and our daughter is spoiled. Yet any no,any corrections set her off . She gets so hard hearted then she collects any thing she can spin as bad and out and out lies and seems to really milk sympathy and has gotten so carried away. It’s horrible dealing with it and hard on her. reading comments and the video does help me to understand. We walk on egg shells and constantly deal with mean spirited comments yet it’s all about her. I think she knows we are here and yet I don’t think she ever thinks about our feelings which is strange because she’s a wonderful kid yet if she gets triggered she’s like mr. Hyde. She says really mean creepy things then it’s like a storm passes and she’s joking and acting literally as if nothing happened.

  27. It's genetic. My granddaughter was just diagnosed with it. She has been defiant since she could walk& talk. My son had it but it went undiagnosed. We just assumed it was ADD. He was troubled at an early age. I remember having trouble in school was diagnosed as an adult with depression. Now I look back & see that I probably had ODD as well as OCD.

  28. Informative video, and it makes sense. Can you make one about Conduct Disorder specifically? Thank you, Kati. You do amazing work. 💝

  29. I was diagnosed with ODD when I was younger (around 7-8 years old) but I don't think I was annoyed easily and I didn't try to annoy people on purpose. But I think a lot of it was a misdiagnosis and it was actually ADHD symptoms but being a young girl in the mid to late 90s I wasn't diagnosed as ADHD but also my mom was not a very nuturing mother, she was cruel to me many times and I wasn't as bad with teachers/other adults, but I did get in trouble quite often and would lash out because I figured if I was going to get into trouble I might as well make the punishment worth it by doing something really bad etc etc… It sucked and wasn't fun for me

  30. I think I had this in middle school, I used to enjoy annoying people.. my family is comprised of narcisists so maybe I just took it off on other kids, but I was also bullied. Now I have cptsd and depersonalization it sufks ass I attract a lot of cluster b abusive people

  31. They SAID Cody from Do5 had ODD…but they abused him constantly and provoked a response for views. I wonder now how many kids have been simply reacting to abuse.

  32. Stop fucking diagnosing yourselves with this shit you assholes, none of you know what it's like to actually have this. It fucking sucks.

  33. I remember learning about this in psychology class and I still can’t help but get some 1984 vibes out of it. I feel like by the definition you could say people like serious activists have a disorder because they are angry about things and they have negative feelings towards authority. Most of these points probably apply to people who suffer under an oppresive government

  34. What could you do if you had sever ODD as a kid, and it was never properly treated? Or that was treated with abusive discipline?

  35. My child was diagnosed with this. It was pretty much tearing our family apart. He had extreme aggression even before he could talk and it progressively got worse the older he got. We tried all types of discipline, it didnt work. He almost was kicked out of daycare for hurting other children and then at the end of 1st grade it was so bad that I could barely get him out the door to school. He had so much anxiety because he was totally aware that his behavior was horrendous, but he had no control. Have you ever had a 5 year old tell you they wish they had a different brain? That they don't want to live? He is incredibly smart but he could not even concentrate during the short time it takes to do a spelling test. He would just trash his paper because he was so frusterated. Finally his Dr. decided it was time to take a step further and introduce medicine. He was diagnosed with ADHD and ODD. Let me tell you what. In a weeks time, it was like a switch had been flipped. My son was still hyper mind you, it did not turn him into a zombie. What it did, however, was slow and organize his thinking. It gave him talking super powers as we called it, because he could think clearly and communicate his thoughts. It made him less impulsive, made him agreeable and loving, and it even made ALL of the aggression go away. I know alot of people do not agree with medicine, and my family gave me an earfull about it let me tell you. But some people truely NEED it. Not only is his behavior better, but his social skills are improving. He has FRIENDS. He feels better about himself because he has control over his emotions. It saved our family!

  36. Imagine being an empath, with a child around that has ODD, ADHD and Autism all in one mind!

    One child with Aspergers

    A dad with with narcisstic personality disorder and a manic depressive mother

    A child to a schizophrenic

    An ex with borderline personality disorder

    A psychopathic aunty and a schizophrenic aunty

    A cousin who’s borderline
    And a partridge in fucking pear tree

    Just imagine that

  37. Hm, is being quiet about it, aka holding grudges and being more passive-aggressive negates the possibility of diagnosis? Let's say, disregarding authority but in a non-frontal way.

  38. The person with ODD in our family has no problem with expression. I'm extremely resentful of the suggestion of therapy and counseling. One child is completely running the entire household, the other children are being drug through the coals and not a day goes by without anger and extreme drama. Not. One. Day.

  39. My dad said to me at least once in my upbringing that I al oppositional defiant, and it's something that may or may not play into my decision making… I have to evaluate myself often to be careful not to do the opposite of what everyone says

  40. I KNOW WHAT CAUSES IT, I HAVE IT, IT'S NOT GENETIC.
    I think it's part of the 'complex trauma'. My mother was authoritarian, but she had no rules at the same time. All she did was scream at me and guilt trip me for not doing the things I had to do. I developped shame. And I think I became oppositional defiant to escape that shame. I would feel shame to do what she asks me to do. Because it's like I'm making her right, when she's wrong. I don't know how to control it.
    It's like if your parent tell you ''pick up that fork because if you don't your a bad kid, shameful who's a burden to all the family and it would make my life harder if you don't and that would prove that you're irresponsible and egoist''. Will you really pick up that fork? As a kid I realized that what she guilt tripped me with wasn't true, so my way to defend myself against that was not to do what she's telling me. And that became 'chronic'?

  41. I think i have ODD in this day whenever my classmate always yells at me i easily really get hostile and aggressive that cause great trouble to me.

  42. I used to have ODD, I also had really bad autism. I'm glad I got better. Autism doesn't go away though lol. Ty for your video on sensory disorder too.

  43. Disgusting you can pathologize rebel behavior, or people who will not follow certain rules because they are abusive. This is why i cannot stand psychology, they pathologize any and all "non conforming behavior" this is a clear human rights abuse

  44. Mine is definitely from genetics. Both me and my husband passed on gene mutations to our children that is in the intellectual disability gene panel test as producing autism-like symptoms on a spectrum from severe to mild. SMARCA4 mutation from Dad and SMARCA2 mutation from me. Our 4 sons have dyslexia’s, one severe. ADHD. One has level 3 ASD ODD and ADHD. Our only daughter has a genetic syndrome (ddx3x) although her gene mutation is different and we did not pass that one to her

  45. This makes no sense to me. What’s the difference between “odd” and a hissy fit? Give me an example of the “disorder” and I’ll show you a normal child or adolescent. This is the problem we have today. Everything is a “disorder” and needs some pill. Remember when everyone had “ADD” and kids went to school like zombies? Stop stuffing our kids with pills and let them be kids. Parents need to do their part and raise their kids.

  46. This is another psychobabble made up term for people who disagree with the accepted narratives and is used to silence those with whom they want to not challenge. A totally bullshit made up "illness" to give psychotherapists some way of earning a living! Selling medication is BIG BUSINESS AND THEY KEEP LOOKING FOR NEW CUSTOMERS. The goal is to silence and censor any conversation that is being challenged. It is used to discourage examination of facts. This is nothing but a form of enforcing mind control. Do not be a victim of this! It is used to DISCOURAGE CRITICAL THINKING. Another socialist/communist agenda to turn people into sheep.

  47. I was diagnosed with this as a child, but I don't feel it was fair. My sister was stillborn not long before I was diagnosed, and my parents were neglectful and abusive. Of course I was acting out!

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