Make Your Relationship Stronger | Happiness Challenge Day 7 | Swami Mukundananda

Make Your Relationship Stronger | Happiness Challenge Day 7 | Swami Mukundananda

all relationships are based on the
equation of mutual give-and-take they are hampered by selfishness and
nourished and strengthened through sacrifice and service let us learn the
importance of these today on the seventh day of our happiness challenge one boy
and girl came to me and said Swamiji please give us your blessings we have
decided to take the seven circles around the fire to get married I called the boy
aside and said why do you wish to marry this girl
he said Swamiji she is very beautiful her father is very rich and she loves me
very much I will get great happiness from her I then called the girl aside
and asked her why do you wish to marry this boy she said Swamiji he has a very
promising corporate career he is very dashing and handsome and he takes great
care of me I then got them both together and said look both of you wish to marry
the other for your own happiness not for the happiness of the other and
the moment your happiness is affected or lessened the love will reduce in other
words this marriage is always vulnerable if you wish to strengthen it
learn to be more selfless unfortunately we don’t even realize that when we think
we are doing things for others sake we are still motivated by selfishness
consider this situation a husband and wife were in the bed speaking to each
other together when around 11:00 p.m. at night they began fighting the fight had
happened many times earlier but on this day it became very serious and the
husband said I will take it no more I am NOT going to sleep in this house with
you he got out of bed he walked out of the door and he went to sleep in the car
in the driveway one hour later the wife had a change of heart she suddenly
realized how much she loves her husband so she took her husband’s favorite soda
bottle out from the fridge to go and give it to him but when she reached the
car she found that he was asleep nevertheless she opened the door and
placed the soda bottle there and closed it back thinking that when the husband
wakes up and sees what she has done for him he will also realize how much he
loves her and then they will live happily ever after
now if this had been a fairy tale that would have been a probable ending
but this was not a fairy tale when the husband got up and saw the soda bottle
there his anger had not yet subsided rather than drinking it he poured it
onto the road and then smashed the bottle when the wife came to know what
the husband had done she became infuriated and she came to meet me and
said Swamiji when I behaved so selflessly with my husband why did he do
this to me I said to her what did you expect your husband to do for you and
that is when a bomb shall hit her for the first time she realized that she was
being selfish and even when she was doing something for her husband she had
this expectation of reciprocation when that was not met it caused her
frustration ponder over it in all our relationships we are motivated by this
expectation of return reward and reciprocation so if only we can learn to
drop this as I had said earlier first try to understand and then be understood
make sacrifice and service the goal in your relationship you will then discover
that you have found the art of a much healthier and stronger relationship
this is the homework for you today to see how you can give more in your
relationships and to think of the ways you are getting dissatisfied because of
the desire for taking practice this today and we shall move ahead in the art
of healthier relationships from here tomorrow you


  1. Day 7: Learn to find happiness in giving instead of taking. Notice your subtle expectations behind every action. Thanks Swamiji. Radhey Krishna!

  2. Radhey Radhey Today is the 7th day of Happiness challenge . Here Swamiji Explained about How we can keep our relationship happy and healthy . Realtionships are not absolute but are variable and needs to be handled with care , Thank you Swamiji Radhey Radhey !!!

  3. Wordly relationships are motivated by selfishness. We think we are doing for others sake but actually we have an inner motivation for ourselves but we don't realize it. Relationships can be strengthened through sacrifice and selflessness. Thank you Swamiji

  4. If in relationships we are always looking for what we can get out from other person by offering our help or expecting that by me behaving certain way should result in some expected behavior, then we are creating more grief for ourselves. To remain happy we should not be selflish and not think of what we can get.

  5. In relationship first try to understand and then to be understood by the others . Expectations from others is the main reason to be unhappiness.Thank you Swami ji.

  6. Desire for reward or reciprocation from an relationship makes it strained. I accept this relationship to be conscious of this fact. Thank you Swamiji 🙏

  7. Swami ji ko Pranaam!!!
    Yes, the eradication of Three R's i. e. Return, Reward and Reciprocation from our lives can make a difference and make us more happy. I'll implement this tool in my life. Thank You for this great grace.
    Shri Hari Guru ji ko koti koti pranam!!!!

  8. Selfless service is key to healthier relationships. Great explanation by Swamiji and a good homework for all to take up.

  9. We love someone for our own happiness. In any relationship to work we need do selfless love, not to expect something in return. A. Very beautiful explanation Swamiji.

  10. Make your Relationship Stronger — Day 7

    — Key is Selfless Love
    — Expectation of Reciprocation
    — Sacrifice and Giving

  11. Very well explained with real world examples! To improve relationship, we need to learn to be more selfless! Give more in relationship, rather that expecting to receive more. Expectations, when not met ruin relationships! Thank you Swami Ji!

  12. Everybody loves others to make oneself happy. If it’s not reciprocated in the same way as we expected, we feel heartbroken. So just love krishna where no one can get hurt. Radhey radhey🌺

  13. In this material world we should do our duty properly instead of loving or expecting from others ! Radhey Radhey n Thank U Swamiji for the vdo 🙏🏻 🙏🏻

  14. A MUST WATCH VIDEO !!! We all seek our happiness in our relationships. We never learned how to be selfless and how to give. We will only be happy and have a healthier relationship if we learn how to give and serve. Thank you so much, Swamiji !!

  15. Swamiji explain beautifully about the selfless love in relationship in this video.Thank you Swamiji Radhey Radhey

  16. So true, when we do something selflessly we at the same time expect people to recognize our selfless deed, defeating the sole purpose of the deed….this hypocricy needs to be dropped

  17. Selfless love/service is the basis of true devotion or relationship. Thank you Swamiji for the profound knowledge.

  18. !!श्री स्वामी जी महाराज की जय हो!!

  19. Thanks Shri Swamiji for this wisdomful Happiness video #7 to make our relationship healthy by only giving or sacrificing and not getting or expecting anything in return. Radhey Radhey 🙏👏

  20. We should learn to give rather than taking.. should practice to sacrifice our own expectations to hold a healthy relationship. #tool7 is to be selfless for nurturing the relationship with self less n unconditional love.

  21. Through the happiness challenge tool#7 we come to know that
    Relationship based upon the expectations upon each other does not exist for longer . Instead of finding fault of others we must pay more attention to our own activities in day to day life.
    Radhey Radhey Swamiji🙏🙏🙏🙏

  22. Radhey Radhey Ji…..!!!

    This I had realized earlier through the lectures by pujya Shri Maharaj Ji that expectation is the biggest cause  of unhappiness and unhealthy relations. But truely I am implementing these things now in my life. Yesterday, on day 6 of happiness challenge I determined this in my mind that I'll do most of my works on my own without asking my wife to do these for me. Even I offered my help in some of her house tasks. I found that she was happy and surprised. It gave me satisfaction too. I have determined it for my future that I'll decrease my dependancy on other people in my family and outside the family. 

    Thank you for transforming my life. Swami ji ko koti koti Pranaam!!

    Shri Hari Guru ji ko koti koti pranam!!

    जय जय श्री राधे!!

  23. We need to learn to become selfless. This is the formula for happy relationships. The same formula, selfless love for God, is the key for Bhakti , as knowledge given by Swamiji. Radhey Radhey

  24. This wonderful piece of advice can be applied to any relationship, between parents and kids, siblings, colleagues, neighbours and friends. Don't expect others to behave according to a pre conceived notions. But even if we adjust our expectations if the other person doesn't do his/her part how can there be an accord?

  25. Excellent clip on attaining healthier relationships! Turn away from returns, rewards, and reciprocation, and turn towards selflessness and sacrifice in your relationships! By doing so, you make your interactions more meaningful, which will strengthen your bond with others. Thanks for sharing this valuable knowledge! Look forward to the next clip in the #HappinessChallenge!

  26. Radhey radhey
    Swamiji explained very well todays point. Expecting reward , reciprocation are causes for our unhappiness.

  27. Selfless love is the key towards having a healthy relationship whether in materialistic or spiritual world.Giving instead of taking and not expecting anything in return causes less friction and builds a stronger foundation.

  28. Radhey Radhey, simply and well relationship stands without the same attention we have for our supreme lord, the love and desire for their happiness. And just as we would care for our animals, pets, garden, farm etc we care and feed for their survival and pleasure, and subsequently of course its pleasurable for us to see pleasure taking place in the ones we care for but this should never be the primary reason!

  29. Swamiji beautifully explains the most important characteristics of lasting relationships.  Any relationship strengthens by sacrifice and selfless service. However, human nature is to help others with the expectation of receiving back.  We are seeking our own happiness and selfishness in a relationship which we may not realize. Selfless service is the key to loving and enduring relationships. Thank you Swamiji.

  30. Selflessness is rare to find these days. Swamiji explains it very beautifully by giving us tool #7 that selflessness makes our relationship stronger.

  31. Selfless and sacrifice makes relationship stronger and longer. More applicable to our spiritual path. Radhey Radhey

  32. Yes Swami ji, excellent message.
    We never factor in the attitude of service, selflessness in relationships. Its more about, give and take and thus, so much chaos and break ups around us.

  33. It hurts to admit that we are all indeed selfish; selflessness and love seem so far fetched. Is there any hope of changing ourselves…

  34. Thank you Swami ji for opening our eyes……giving and sacrifice is the key to successful and happy relationships

  35. Very nice. Sacrifice and Service are key to healthier relationships and happiness. Happiness is in GIVING and without expecting anything in return, reward or reciprocation. Thank You, Swamiji.

  36. When we do somebody a favor, in the back of our mind there is expectation of reciprocation. When it is not forthcoming, it sours or puts a kink in our relationships.
    Swami Ji's message: "Do it without expectation". Cultivate it in your life. When you see your favor bring joy to the receiver, that should be your reward. Personally, when I see that because of my little favor or action of kindness somebody flourishes and never show any gratitude, instead of holding any malice towards that person, I simply think I was just an instrument of God for my action and don't take credit myself.

  37. Thank you Swamiji for providing us these wonderful tools to develop happy and positive attitude towards life !! #HappinessChallenge

  38. A relationship based on conditions and expectations is doomed for failure. Selflessness is essential for maintaining relationships. Thank you, Swamiji! @

  39. Swamiji beautifully explains that maintaining positive relationships requires sacrifice, understanding, tolerance and patience not just once but all the time with all the people. These qualities are divine and difficult for materially conditioned souls. Thank you Swamiji!

  40. Swamiji beautifully says that we expect people to reciprocate our gestures and acts of what we perceive to be selfless. However, if we carefully reflect on our own intentions, they may not be quite as selfless as we think because we all are materially conditioned souls. Thank you, Swamiji! #HappinessChallenge

  41. Listening to you is always a bliss.. I keep in listening to you over and over.. this video surely helping me in my relationships.. homework you have given in this video is being performed practically.. 🙏🙏

  42. Saint Assisi used to say that it is in giving that we receive, it is in loving others that we are loved, it is in understanding others that we are understood. Lower your expectations from others, and lead happier and better lives!

  43. Swamiji beautifully explains that it takes sacrifice, understanding, tolerance and patience to maintain positive relationships with people. Such qualities are divine and difficult for materially conditioned souls but effort will help us move forward. Thank you Swamiji!

  44. Love for the sake of serving others in all relationships. This will help your relationships flourish.

  45. thanku you swami ji….u awake my eyes….told the dam truth behind my breakup iwas searching for 4 years…i feel generious when i saw you

  46. Thank you & obeisance unto you Swamiji, 🌼 ,..Our life existence here on Earth as human beings compromises of two bodies, one aspect of our existence is made up of material elements the other is made of the Eternal Spiritual Soul which is a tiny part of the Supreme whole, the Lord Himself. Relationships based through human attachment via the material bodilly senses has an ending as everything that arises from the material body or matter including the material senses is finite & therefore has an ending. The wise using their intelligence take a different path,. to finding their fulfillment & happiness,..🌼It is the Spiritual Soul✨ that is in actual fact keeping the material body alive,. We the eternal servitor & tiny part of the Supreme whole were given a material body to have the chance to regain our pure eternal relationship with the Lord,. as we have become lost in self seeking pleasures via materially based perishable means of happiness,. Some words from the Holy Bhagvat Gita, spoken by the Lord,. Our minds can act as our friend or our own enemy, therefore by using our minds to control our senses we can direct souls journey rightly,.. Towards Eternal Happiness that is Spiritual based, free from sinful contamination, that is pure, eternal & satisfying,

  47. Wonderful explanation by Swamiji. Unconditional love has no ending point.It is eternal and the best gift from God.When we love selflessly, we don’t worry about the outcome of it.

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