How To Read Anyone Instantly - 18 Psychological Tips

How To Read Anyone Instantly – 18 Psychological Tips

brainy dose presents how to read anyone instantly 18 psychological tips when we are meeting someone for the first time we are bombarded with information it can be hard to work out what kind of person they are that's why it's important to understand how we communicate according to experts 55% of what we convey comes from body language 38% from the tone of voice and only 7% from what we actually say this means that when we meet someone for the first time we have to take into account these three factors in addition to what a person's appearance may suggest so if you want to gain insight into someone's personality when you first meet them pay attention to the following clues starting from the head down number one eye contact they often say that the eyes are the window to the soul the key to knowing which kind of eye contact someone is giving you is to consider the context for example if a person literally can't take their eyes off you it could mean there's a romantic interest on the other hand when you look someone in the eye and they can't bring themselves to look back at you it's a sign that they're either nervous or they've got something to hide that said if you're talking with someone who's stare is making you squirm especially if they're very still and not blinking something is definitely up and they may be lying to you number two eyebrows if you want to see how comfortable a person is take a look at their eyebrows there are three main emotions that make your eyebrows go up surprise worry and fear try raising your eyebrows when you're having a relaxed casual conversation with a friend it's hard to do isn't it if someone talking to you raises their eyebrows and the topic isn't one that would logically cause surprise worry or fear it's a sign that they're feeling pretty uncomfortable number three lips these days more and more people plump up their lips with Botox injections but it turns out that those with lovely full lips are deemed to be childlike and immature these baby face people may also be judged as naive and submissive on the other hand thin lips are deemed to be distinguished they are associated with intelligence and determination number four smile when it comes to smiling the mouth can lie but the eyes can't genuine smiles reach the eyes crinkling the skin to create crow's feet around them people often smile to hide what they're really thinking and feeling so the next time you want to know if someone's smile is genuine look for crinkles at the corners of their eyes if they aren't there that smile is hiding something number five what they say if you're meeting someone for the first time and all they do is talk about their wonderful better half or praise their work colleagues chances are they're a pretty decent person themselves studies show that the more people rate others is being kind polite loving and well mannered the more likely they are to also possess these traits however the reverse is also true anyone backstabbing and describing others as manipulative and nasty is more likely to have these traits themselves it's also possible that they have a history of depression or personality disorder number six paralanguage paralanguage is nonverbal communication such as your tone pitch or manner of speaking basically it's a fancy way of saying that you need to pay attention to how someone says something for example if someone is answering you in monotone they're likely unattached to your concept and not interested the use of sarcasm is another good example when someone uses sarcasm what the person means is actually the opposite of what the words say so pay attention to the emphasis they put on and how they say it it gives you a big clue as to what their true intentions are number seven side-glance people that are warm and open to meeting you will have their body facing you and they will look you in the eye on the flipside if you've just met someone and they immediately glance away to the side this is a subconscious body language sign that means they are looking for an escape number eight frequent nodding nodding is usually a sign that someone agrees with you but exaggerated nodding may signal anxiety about approval when you're telling someone something and they not excessively this means that they are worried about what you think of them or that you doubt their ability to follow your instructions on the other hand frequent nodding could also be unconscious gestures that are cues for the other person to get a move on just like when a person keeps looking at their watch or touches their car keys number nine chin and jaw when someone is trying to make a decision they tend to rub their chin they might be looking up down or to the side it's a sure sign that they are deep in thought a clenched jaw is a sign of stress regardless of what the person is saying this indicates a considerable level of discomfort the conversation may be heading towards something they're anxious about or their mind may be elsewhere and they're focusing on the thing that's stressing them out number 10 posture how someone carries themselves can give you some indication about their self confidence for example if someone is walking upright with their shoulders back and looking straight ahead that gives the indication that they feel good about themselves and have confidence however if someone is slouching over and looking at the ground when they walk that gives a much different impression it may not necessarily mean that they have low self-esteem but that's the message it gives off number 11 rubbing hands it is believed that the hands broadcast what the head is thinking when a person is rubbing their hands together generally it means that they have a positive feeling about something people usually do this when they are hopeful about something good coming up in the future and they're excited about it number 12 handshake you can tell a lot by a person's handshake soft and flabby and they are likely to be submissive or a pushover too hard and crushing and they are possibly domineering types the length of time is also important too long and it's weird but too short could indicate some form of conflict it's possible that the person does not want to make a deep connection with you but it could also mean that they don't have much time number thirteen leaning in or away if a person leans in toward you it's a clear indication that they are interested in what you have to say but you might not know is that it's also a sign of respect when people come closer and lean in toward you during a conversation it shows that they want to confide in you it makes you feel trustworthy and valued if someone leans back however they show that they are tired of the conversation or perhaps they feel uncomfortable for some reason number fourteen holding the baby okay this might seem like a strange one but it's good to know if you're meeting someone for the first time and they just happen to be a new mother look at what arm they used to hold the baby studies show that happy moms tend to hold their babies in their left arm while stressed and depressed mothers usually hold their babies and their right arm number fifteen crossed arms and legs have you ever had a conversation with someone who crossed their arms or legs while you were talking to them if you're on a first date or if you're trying to pitch someone a new idea it's not a good sign crossed arms and legs are physical barriers that suggest the other person is not open to what you're saying even if they're smiling and engaged in a pleasant conversation their body language tells the story psychologically cross legs or arms signal that a person is mentally emotionally and physically blocked off from what's in front of them on the same note the direction of someone's feet are also quite revealing a person that likes you will have both feet facing in your direction however if their feet shift toward the door it means they've had enough and want to leave number sixteen shoes a person's shoes can tell you a lot about their personality apparently we all make judgments about people's shoes but studies show that they are pretty accurate nervous people will have new or very clean shoes amiable types will wear practical shoes calm people have an affinity for uncomfortable shoes an aggressive people wear ankle boots just take a look at your own shoes does your personality type fit in with them number 17 overall appearance how someone dresses and presents themselves can save volumes about them if the person has their hair in place their clothing pressed and they show attention the style they may be very detail-oriented someone with a more casual wardrobe or bed head might be creative or just messy and then take someone who looks on capped and smelly they could simply be a really lazy person number 18 copying body language if you've never tried to read people before this is something you probably haven't noticed but pay close attention to it in the future because when someone mimics your body language it means they feel so good about you that they want to harmonize with you it's a sign that the conversation is going well and that the other party is receptive to your message this is done unconsciously as no one walks around with the intention of outright copying someone but when we're comfortable with people we have a tendency to do what they do some of us are pretty good at reading the signs that people give off while others are so bad that they need the other person to come out and straight-up tell them what's on their mind reading people isn't easy but if you can do it it's a fantastic skill to have of course everyone is different so interpreting their words and actions may or may not always be accurate but hopefully with these tips you'll be well on your way to becoming better at reading people we want to know what you think when you're meeting someone for the first time what's the first thing you 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  1. Bullshit! If psychologists knew anything, we wouldn't have a country full of maniacs! They overcharge and are way overpaid just to push drugs to create zombie killers ….

  2. Last time some body did not take his eyes far me was in ferry terminal For 30 minutes he just stare at me and when we were boarding I realized he was part of group they had day out from Bedlam’s. Nothing proof of anything!

  3. Yes this info is pretty accurate. I like heels I just can’t wear them any more . No necessary true for everything

  4. I haven't read any of the comments mirrored here. Here are my two cents. Personally, my approach no matter who or what, their body language may be, be it a man or a woman….I'm always me, strong, confident, and secure. If you try to follow these 18 tips, you will drive yourself nuts. That's right, nuts! Remember this, don't play games. Be yourself, smile when you want, cross your arms when you want, and walk away when you want. if the person in front of you has their arm closed, guess what, that may be all they know and maybe it makes them feel secure and safe. Who cares. The fact is that 90% of all people are going to be cautious anyway. Be it arms, legs, or eyes crossed. Your approach to anything and anybody, no matter what, should be that of an archer, always aim at your target, what you are after, a date, a job, whatever…if you miss it, move on and try again later. You still have the most important thing you came with – yourself.

  5. This is not the first time I hear botox injection is a sign of being stuck in childhood and immaturity.Very ugly you must not like yourself to much.

  6. Hmmmm, big lips? I wonder how that came to be. Where people with big lips are perceived as child like and lacking intelligence. I’ve actually read and heard that in several other places. So maybe there’s some truth, as to the general perception. But, I still wonder what the underlying cause is. Perhaps sometime during early development certain resources are shifted from the frontal cortex to the lips? Just a thought.

  7. As an older woman I think age plays a big part in some of the clues as comfort or pain comes before pointing to the door with your foot as an example. Most is so accurate.

  8. wtf is it about the lips? I thought this video was about reading persons and not about racist remarks about lip size and how this was related to intelligence… bullshit

  9. Listen to your gut if someone's an asshole your gut will tell you then later on in life it will unfold in a huge way. Be patient

  10. Agreed. Most people throwing the racist card are NOT white and
    Seem to be obsessed with racism. They keep basing the past on current and future. It’s getting old. Whites do not have a “WET” White Entertainment TV station or a “White Entrepenuer” magazine or an agency for lawsuits NCAA. It’s gettig quite old. U don’t hear the Jews constantly belittling blonde or light Skinned people or now it’s lips? Good grief! Well the more intelligent people gleaned the overall objective of this vid which I appreciate which is how to read people! Thx for that!

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